There is very little "typical" connection between my children.
These days he does one of three things with her:
1) Snatches her favourite bunny/pacifier away from her and throws it across the room. There is lots of screaming.
2) Sticks his chin in her cheek, it hurts and there is lots of screaming
3) Presses Lego blocks in her arm so it makes little circular patterns which he likes to rub his finger or chin on.
Before you launch in to how all brothers are like that, don't bother. Because I have seen other brothers with their siblings. They may tease and annoy them, but they also do other things like play, teach and talk to them. But the three things mentioned above, are ALL my son does. Ever. There is NO other interaction of any kind. Ever.
None of these are aggressive, violent or cause any serious harm, but they frustrate his sister such that she screams either at the sight of him or the sight of him approaching a small radius of her.
She doesn't trust him. So when he does rarely try to do something that seems inviting, she is very cautious.
Like the other day he wanted to hold her hand when we were walking in the park.
Picture perfect right? Poor thing complied, hesitantly.
A few seconds later he was pulling her and running and she was screaming, then he let go and she fell. She got set up, it was just a stim.
Anyway, pictures can be deceiving. I want to look at it and think happy thoughts, but I was there.
As she gets older of course she gets more confident around him and learns his peculiarities and boundaries.
Unlike typical brothers however K shares all his things with her without a second thought (unless it is something he is using at the time, but he is happy to let her have a turn). She watches him obey me on command, whereas she will often refuse simple things like "OK tidy up". He takes all her abuse and never retaliates with anything except maybe an annoyed "Stop hitting me babyyyyy!" or "Aaaaaahhh!".
She hits him on the head with toys, slaps him and eats all his french fries and ice cream but never shares her own.
Sometimes she copies his stims and strange games. She wanted to squish Lego blocks in to my arm today and the other day I saw her dancing to starfall songs with her fingers in her ears like her brother.
She is very much her own person and I don't know why I was expecting anything else!
I don't know what to make of their peculiar relationship. My husband is often analysing and making ominous predictions of future psychological or emotional problems. I live in the present so I find it hard to think too much about the future. It is like watching a social experiment. In the end God's will is going to happen, that's all I know.
